Who’s your Daddy?

Posted in After, Communication, Health, Marriage, Mindset, Pregnancy, Relationships, Self Care on 25. May, 2010

Remember what is was like before kids came along?

Remember the ‘fun’ you used to have?

Remember how you could curl up on the lounge together with a wine and some pizza and watch an entire movie?

Remember how you could just talk for ages, relaxed and so comfortable?

Then you have children and you struggle to have a moments peace and quite, no more curling up on the lounge with your partner because there is always either the complete set of Barbies, teddy’s, blankies and children already there! The ‘fun’ you have is plagued by being too tired, the thought of the door flinging open at the ‘wrong’ time and so much for hours of talking about this and that for hours, it’s kiss, “hi,what’s for dinner?”. Find yourself who you’ve become and asking who your partner is now, “Who’s your Daddy?” now has a whole new meaning!

Getting back in touch with your partner

I’ve had to do this, so I speak from personal experience. I went through a very distressing time following a car accident and troubles at work, which also put me on a lot of medication. So not only was I already busy enough with a toddler, I was so busy trying to sort out my head, my partner was left on the wings, just waiting patiently for me. I overheard him say to my sister on the phone in the middle of my darkest time ”I just want my wife back!”. Even repeating those words cuts me to the core now. I found my way back to him, with baby steps, but I made it. I made a conscious effort to be the woman he married, to be the mother of our little girl and be the friend he needed.

We can go through life challenging events, but it’s how to manage to pull yourself out of it that really matters. How you show others around you that you are making an effort to be in a happier, more stable place in both mind and body. If you can get your mindset into a more neutral place, your body will almost certainly follow, well it did for me. I discovered my partner again, I regained communications, I regained the intimate connections, I removed the Barbies and teddy’s to snuggle again and I found Who’s my Daddy in the cheeky sense of the word *wink* and back to having fun again. No more dark times for me!

So, sometimes we allow everything else in our lives to be more important than those around us or that we allow ourselves to become sad through challenging times and forgot the most important people who are right there waiting for us to be well again.

Are you in that dark place?

Are you lost and alone in Motherhood, relationships and life?

It’s time to turn it around! What are you going to do TODAY to turn your life around? Inspiring Quote:

“All personal breakthroughs being with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting a new, empowering belief.” ~ Anthony Robbins

Empower yourself to move forward! Motherhood can be challenging at times, but allowing it to affect your relationship with your partner can add to the challenge. Make an action plan, work on your mindset and self care and become an active partner in your relationship again. Intimacy is hugely important in your continued self care. Remember baby steps.

Excuse me while I go an snuggle the man of my dreams, my best friend and the Daddy of our little Angel…

“Never doubt what you can achieve when you have a passion, apply yourself and respect others. Listen. Learn. Laugh. Love.”
~ Heather James