Overcome Mother Guilt today!
Posted in After, Baby, Children, Communication, Creativity, Discipline, Health, Marriage, Mindset, Mumpreneurs, Parenting Skills, Relationships, School Age, Self Care, Toddler, Types of Mothers, WAHM (work at home mother), Young Mother on 18. May, 2010
- you have fed your children whatever they will eat, just to get some food into them! Ice cream for dinner anyone?
- for going back to work (maybe to a job you loathe) and leaving the kids with carers or childcare.
- you’ve left the TV on all day so you can get a few things done around the house.
- you may have added little extra body weight through pregnancy and you may not look or feel like you did before kids.
- you are not there to watch every second of your children’s early milestones, growth and development.
- you got angry at the kids or your partner over something trivial, because you are utterly exhausted!
- the house looks like a bomb has hit it and you go out for some well deserved ‘me-time’ and you feel you shouldn’t have gone out until the house is clean!
- you feel that while you are still attracted and love your partner, you lack the same energy or the desire to be intimate as often.
Mother Guilt
I could go on, but I am sure at least one of those will resonate with you or someone you know. I will be the first to admit, I have felt every one of those ‘guilts’ listed above over the last 4 years as a mother. Yep! Sure have, but I don’t anymore! I now I accept I am NOT perfect, and in fact I now laugh about it when others try to judge me for what I do as a mother or in life in general. I have to say it has made it easier to move forward.
I wrote an Inspiring Quote a few months ago, it goes like this:
“I’m not a perfect friend. I am not a perfect mum. I am not a perfect wife. I am not a perfect person. I’m yet to find anyone that is. Until then, I will be me and do my best. I may get it wrong from time to time, but there’s always room for improvement in everyone…” Quote written by Heather James
(you may copy/use this quote but please include my name and website) www.inspiringmums.com.au
INSPIRING CHALLENGE: 5 Top Tips for overcoming your Mother Guilt – TODAY!
- LOVE who you are. LOVE what you do. LOVE who you are with. Or change it!
- LAUGHTER is the best medicine, laugh at judgements made on you because you know reality!
- WRITE a daily journal and purge unwanted guilty thoughts, turn them into positives!
- ACTIONS, turn your guilty thoughts into ACTIONS (i.e. too tired to be intimate, get some sleep and have some FUN!) – no more guilty thoughts!
- CREATIVITY, introduce some creativity into your life to take some of the negativity that guilt brings. Constant thinking on guilt will wear you down, have an outlet to allow more free flowing ideas to enter your life and on how you may shift the guilt altogether and maintain it!
I hope you like the tips I have put together for you, I would love to hear your feedback and thoughts on your own tips or techniques on shifting the Mother Guilt!
“Never doubt what you can achieve when you have a passion, apply yourself and respect others. Listen. Learn. Laugh. Love.”
~ Heather James
Awesome post H…couldn’t have said it better myself! Guilt be gone, after all, we had an individual life before kids..why should we lose that and feel guilty about it??
Keep up the great work!
Peace, love and mung beans baby!
Bec